Oughta be a Monday Mutt
“Love me, love my dogs,” is a comment I have to one of the OKC questions about having pets. It was one of several deal-breakers I would use in determining whose messages I would respond to. It was...
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Minx and her friend Franklin (aka Tacit) had a neat discussion on a recent Polyamory Weekly podcast. It was inspired by a blog post Tacit had written. Each of them are not great fans of rules in...
View ArticleWorlds Coming Together
I was a minor celebrity yesterday. I attended a work party at the home of the couple who lead the camp I am likely to be camping with at this year’s Burning Man. Scotto is the “Camp Daddy” and his …...
View ArticlePoly Agreements
This was reprinted in an email sent to a mailing list. I am reprinting it here, in case it’s of interest to anybody. Comments encouraged. – This excerpt from an article Kamala Devi, keynoter and star...
View ArticlePoly Paradise
I am sure I had mentioned that during the Burn I camped with a Theme Camp known as “Poly Paradise.” They are based in Arizona, but accept members from all over the place. This year we numbered 125,...
View ArticleNot Really A Polyamory Post
It’s about polyamory, but not really about polyamory, if you get my meaning. No? I’m into poly as a lifestyle. I like the thought of a community of like-minded people who are interested in putting it...
View ArticleBlowing Off Clarification
I’ve received a couple of emails from some of my adoring fans expressing concern or questions about my Blow Off Poast. So I’ll clarify. I was apparently too enigmatic. I’ll use lots more words than...
View ArticlePoly Survey
I’ve answered this at length. A drawback to it, although I understand why, is that it lets you answer at length concerning up to two partners. If you have more than two significant relationships,...
View Article[Poly] Some General Poly Commentary
My daughter and I had a conversation the other day. To be perfectly clear, as like as not a conversation with my daughter may consist of a series of lengthy text messages from her, followed by a...
View Article[Poly] Lotta work
I’ve heard (read) people saying that being polyamorous (in fact, all the variations of open relationships) seems like “a lotta work,” with the implication being it’s too much work for them to even...
View ArticlePoly or Not — How to Listen
“Poly is a crucible that burns away extraneous distractions and demands your presence, attention, and full participation” – Sugarbutch Chronicles (www.sugarbutch.net) The back story for this topic...
View Article[Poly] Terminology even Monogos can use
Rule: something you impose on someone else, e.g. “You will not kiss or flirt with anyone else.” Expectation: something you (reasonably or not) expect of someone else — an unwritten/unspoken rule,...
View ArticleSee? It’s Scientific!
And not just scientific, but American! … social scientists embarking on brand-new research into these types of relationships are finding that they may challenge the ways we think of jealousy,...
View ArticleMono
It’s funny to think about, at least for me, but many humans who identify as “monogamous” may indeed be societally paired with just one person (or seeking same) but rarely are, or remain “monoamourous.”...
View Article[Poly] Family
A polycule (cuteism alert!) of four is interviewed by some guy named Marty Reimer on his video podcast. Start at 16:12 in the link (following the ad). Warning: UStream, or Reimer’s podcast service,...
View Article[Poly] Succinct
Open = can fuck outside of relationship Polyamorous = multiple people inside of relationship – From Polyamory In The News, via anonymous OKCupid commenters
View ArticleA New Don
The irony of the title is that this particular Don is a night owl. He goes to bed before dawn. And he’s not really new, no. I’ve been corresponding with Don L for some time. He and his wife, Susan,...
View ArticleNaming Schemes
I have been given new, and important information, which, in the interests of clarity and completeness, I now provide to you. In chronological order: TUFKAS = the ex; D1 = Dick; D2 = Don; E = Evan;...
View ArticleSuccess
A successful relationship: how do you define it? I’ve thought about this off and on over the years, beginning at the moment I realized that my marriage was on its way out the door (a long time before...
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